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84: Resilience in Leadership: Transforming Stress into Strength with Jacque McCormack

To grow the business, career, and life you really want, you need to strengthen your resilience and rewire negative thought patterns. In today's episode, I’m joined by Jacque McCormack, a performance and ICF-certified executive coach and consultant with more than 15 years of experience. 

Since the way we respond to situations not only impacts us but our teams, families, and those around us, we first discuss how to better understand our mental patterns. Then she shares how to quickly develop strategies for managing stress and anxiety effectively to make better decisions to improve our future.

Jacque introduces the "Wyldfig" five-step model for resilience, providing listeners with actionable techniques to regulate emotions, develop personal growth, and achieve lasting stability in their professional and personal lives.

Timestamps:

  • 00:28 - Episode Introduction about Personal Resilience and Leadership Development

  • 01:35 - Jacque's Background and Focus on Resilience in Leadership

  • 04:10 - Patterns of Fragility Among Business Leaders: How Stress Affects Leadership

  • 07:00 - The Brain as a Prediction Machine: Overcoming Mental Patterns

  • 09:21 - The Foundation of Resilience: Introducing the Five-Step Model

  • 13:07 - First Step: Pause—Developing Mindfulness Techniques

  • 18:29 - Second Step: Catch—Identifying Negative Thought Patterns

  • 20:55 - Third Step: Shift—Using Empathy to Reframe Negative Thinking

  • 25:09 - Fourth Step: Feel—Understanding Emotional Triggers

  • 27:28 - Fifth Step: Act—Taking Measurable Steps Toward Growth

  • 31:00 - Debunking the Left-Brain/Right-Brain Myth: Balancing Logic and Creativity

  • 34:08 - Consistency Over Perfection: The Power of Small, Repeatable Actions

Key Takeaways for Business Leaders:

Pause to Build Mindfulness: During moments of stress, take 90 seconds to focus on your physical sensations, such as the feeling of your toes in your shoes. This simple action calms your brain and creates space to respond logically rather than emotionally.

Use Empathy to Reframe Negative Thoughts: When you catch yourself in a negative mindset, ask what you would say to a close friend in the same situation. This helps shift your perspective and leads to healthier decision-making.

Act by Setting Small, Attainable Goals: Instead of being overwhelmed by long-term goals, focus on the next three steps that will move you forward. For example, waking up earlier for mini-mindfulness can help regulate your emotions before the day starts.

Balance Logic and Emotion: Avoid over-relying on either logical or emotional thinking. When you're overwhelmed, take a step back to logically plan out the next actions, or, if you're too rigid, remind yourself of the larger purpose of your work to stay grounded.

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Connect with Jacque McCormack

https://www.wyldfig.com/ 

https://hudsongroupconsulting.com/

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46: Understanding and Owning Your Confidence with Nicole Kalil

Sales Series

In today’s episode, I talk with Nicole Kalil, an author, leadership strategist, respected coach, and host of “This Is Woman’s Work” podcast. Nicole is passionate about redefining women’s work, and coaching women in business on what is and isn’t serving women and leaders within organizations.

Today’s episode discusses what confidence actually is, the ways it differs from what society has led women to believe it is, and how to combat harmful mindsets and behaviors that derail women from building that true confidence from within.

Some top tips … 

Recognize that true confidence is essentially just trusting yourself and that it is internal. Confidence is not a feeling you get through external sources (ie. compliments) but a conscious choice that you make. It’s not “fake it till you make it,” but “choose it till you become it.”

Some examples of mindsets and behaviors that can derail you from building true confidence from within are being too judgemental and comparing yourself to others, listening to head-trash, trying to achieve constant perfection, overthinking, and seeking external validation. 

To combat these derailers, it’s important to take action, not feeling intimidated by failure, utilizing positive affirmations during moments of doubt, and not overcommitting but still holding yourself accountable to the commitments you do make.

This episode at glance … 

>> (6:30-9:00) Why women struggle more with confidence during adolescence and adult years

>> (10:45-14:50) What is confidence, really? 

>> (15:10-17:00) The confidence con

>> (17:00-19:15) Common confidence derailers

>> (20:30-27:00) Confidence builders to combat these derailers

>> (27:55-30:05) Nicole’s book, Validation is For Parking: How Women Can Beat the Confidence Con, coming out October 4, 2022

>> (30:10-35:00) How Nicole overcame the daunting task of writing a book

>> (35:00-35:55) The need for business books written through the feminine perspective

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Links to reach Nicole Kalil & Christie Bilbrey

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Nicole’s book coming out October 4: https://nicolekalil.com/book 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolemkalil/
Podcast: This Is Woman’s Work

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38: Strengthen Your Mindset with Laura Terrell

Thought Leadership Series

Today’s guest, Laura Terrell, is an executive coach with more than 25 years of experience as a legal and business insider. Prior to coaching, she was a Special Assistant to the President at the White House, a senior level appointee at the U.S. Department of Justice, an equity partner in two large global law firms, and in-house counsel at a publicly traded company.

In today’s episode, we discuss how to develop and strengthen critical mindsets needed to achieve long-term success as well as the mindsets holding us back from boldly stepping into our role as thought leaders. 

Laura covers how to shut down negative mindsets and tips to strengthen our minds with confidence, perseverance, and resilience in the face of setbacks.

We explore how Laura has developed these mindsets and how she has helped others manage and walk through emotional and mental roadblocks holding them back from making big decisions, leading well, and stepping into new challenges. 

Some top tips … 

No one is immune to fear, especially the fear of failure. As you feel the grip of fear, interrupt the emotion by asking yourself a few key questions to help remove fear’s debilitating effect and map out a healthier, productive thought process to address the underlying issue. 

To strengthen your resilience during a difficult time or crisis, focus on recalling a time when you were able to learn something new and do something differently that was difficult for you. Regardless of how much larger or smaller that may seem in comparison to your current situation, remind yourself that you were capable of learning and adapting then and you can do it again. This shifts your mind to a positive place, helping you approach the current struggle with the view that it is possible for you to overcome it.  

As you make this shift, you will begin to see options appear that can help you address or mitigate the situation. 

Laura has a great definition of imposter syndrome that will change the way you see it and help you dismantle the power you give it in your life.

Today’s episode at a glance…

>>(4:10 - 7:02) Common mindset issues that hold people back from making big jumps forward in their career. 

>>(7:03 - 12:23) Questions to ask yourself when you feel the onslaught of fear and overwhelm. These will help you start thinking clearly again quickly.

>>(12:57 - 17:35) A new way to view imposter syndrome that dismantles its power over you. How to find the confidence to start something new when you don’t have faith in yourself.

>>(17:45 - 19:45) A mindset shift you need to make when leaving a well-established business to start your own. To help you navigate pivots in your career, begin developing your network of resources to bounce ideas off of or help you with pieces that you were accustomed to others taking care of in the corporate or 9-5 job you left. 

>>(19:46-20:44) The pre-work and research you can do before you make the jump into starting your own business or making a major pivot. Test your mindsets, open yourself up to creative ideas, and stay willing and ready to make shifts as needed to continue to grow and excel in your career. 

>>(21:20 - 23:39) Tips and questions to ask yourself to help you adapt more quickly to change.

>>(23:48-29:15) Tips to develop perseverance as the realities of starting and owning a business set in and the excitement wears off. How to refocus your mind when hurdles feel insurmountable. 

>>(29:25-) How to shift your perspective and begin to move forward after a failure that makes you feel stuck.

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Links in the episode for Laura Terrell and Christie Bilbrey

Laura Terrell
https://lauraterrell.com/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauralterrell/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauraterrellcoaching/ 

Christie Bilbrey
www.christiebilbrey.com

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30: The Role of Emotions in Business Decisions with Jessica Hottle

What role should emotions have in your business? Should you rely on your emotions or push them away? It’s important to pay attention to your emotions to see what needs to be addressed, not to make the decision for you. It’s your response to your feelings that can lead you to bad places.

Mindset is 99% of life. Honor your feelings without minimizing them. If you’re suffering, it’s ok to visit that place but don’t take up residence there.

Feelings can overwhelm you and try to control you, or if put in the proper place, you can use them as a warning system to identify a problem you need to address. Lean into the logic side of you as you investigate why you feel your emotions. Don’t rely on one or the other. Learn how to combine them to make the right decisions, asking God to lead you.

Learn more about today’s guest, Jessica Hottle

www.jessicahottle.com www.instagram.com/jessicahottle Get her new book, Face Off with Your Feelings: https://www.amazon.com/Face-Off-Your-Feelings-Embrace/dp/B09M53NV88

Connect with Christie Bilbrey

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Email: hello@christiebilbrey.com

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christiebilbrey/

Creating a New Normal

2020 has been a devastating year for everyone. Today’s podcast gives practical tips to help you examine how to restructure and rebuild your life, creating a new normal, based on where you’re at and what you need right now. I vulnerably share where I’m at and what I’m doing to stop letting this year get the better of me and focus on healing and strengthening. I give you some questions to help you re-examine your life in a new way that will help you understand what you need to change and how to do it.

2020 has been a devastating year for everyone. Today's podcast gives practical tips to help you examine how to restructure and rebuild your life, creating a new normal, based on where you're at and what you need right now.

Brand Identity Theft

Are you tired of feeling like people don't get what makes you unique and your brain hurts from trying so hard to find the right words/photos to explain it or even figure it out for yourself?

What’s holding you back?

If that's you - and honestly, who doesn't want to improve their brand - then today's podcast episode is just for you.

In today's episode, you'll learn:

• what determines your brand (hint: it goes way deeper than your IG bio or photos)

• who stole pieces of your brand that you never realized

• how that affects the way others perceive your brand

• and what you can do about it

Are you tired of feeling like people don't get what makes you unique and your brain hurts from trying so hard to find the right words/photos to explain it or even figure it out for yourself? What is holding you back?

Surfing stories

It's easy to become so focused on the brand stories and messaging we share with others in our business that we often gloss over the stories we tell ourselves. 

Listen to today's episode to avoid a big potential wipeout in your business and strengthen your foundation while enjoying a richer life in the meantime.

It's easy to become so focused on the brand stories and messaging we share with others in our business that we often gloss over the stories we tell ourselves with our mindset. Today's episode reveals how to avoid a big potential wipeout in your business, so that you can strengthen your foundation while enjoying a richer life in the meantime.